Wedding Invitation Addressing Explained, 1-2-3


Addressing Explained, 1-2-3

If  there aren’t enough things to do, you need to now figure out proper wedding invitation addressing and how to follow etiquette rules! So, you’re asking (or screaming) “how do I address my wedding invitations?” Oh boy…this can seem like such a hassle and add to your wedding stress but we are here to help! In this post, we will outline for you 3 important guidelines to follow when working on your guest addressing.


#1. Use Appropriate Salutations:

When it comes to formal wedding invitation addressing, it’s proper etiquette to use appropriate salutations for married couples, single-couples, same sex-couples,  and families with children.

Married Couples:  The use of Mr. and Mrs. is always a must, traditionally followed by the husband’s full first name, followed by his last name. For example, “Mr. and Mrs. William Smith”.

Single Couples:  When it comes to single couples, it’s always proper etiquette to fully address the significant other’s name and avoid “and Guest” if you can. Be sure to use the proper salutation when it comes to “Miss” or Ms.”  using “Miss” for single unmarried women. However, not all unmarried women prefer “Miss”.   Some older women prefer “Ms.” so use your discretion. “Ms.” is proper to use when she may be divorced or separated (still using her married last name), widowed or simply put, in a “it’s complicated” situation. Not sure? Always use “Ms.”

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 Same-Sex Couples:  Put either guest first or alphabetically. If they are married and using the same last name, it should appear as this example stating both first names in alphabetical preference: “Mrs. and Mrs. Clara and Samantha Johnson”. If they are married but not using the same last name, then do: “Mrs. Clara Baker and Mrs. Samantha Johnson”. addressing 2

Families with Children: On the outer envelope, it is appropriate to address the family: “Mr. and Mrs. Johnathan White and Family”, and then listing the family individually on the inner envelope including the children. If you are only utilizing an outer envelope, then list the children in age order on the second line as follows: “Miss Tabatha, Jeffrey and Thomas”. It is acceptable to use “Miss” for girls under 18 but not “Mr.” for boys under 18.  If over the age of 18, they should get their own invitation even if they live in the same household but this is up to your discretion.addressing 3

Occupational Titles: Occupational/distinguished titles should all be spelled out. For doctors, if the husband is a doctor, address it  “Dr. and Mrs. Peter Conner”. If the woman is a doctor, then her occupation outranks her husband, “Dr. Jennifer and Mr. Stanley Weiss” with her first name if they both use the same last name. If both are doctors, then it should be “The Doctors Stevens”.  For other titles, follow the same as the doctor example spelling out the title such as “The Honorable”, “Colonel”, etc., with the person of the higher rank listed first.addressing 4

Another great source we recommend for wedding invitation addressing etiquette is the Martha Stewart Wedding Website. Another personal favorite resource of mine is the Emily Post Institute Website as well.

#2. Do not Abbreviate:

This means no shortcuts…sorry! This means spell everything out, For example: “St.” becomes “Street”, “Ave.” becomes “Avenue”, “Ln.” becomes “Lane”, “Hwy” becomes “Highway”. This is also important when it comes to the city, state and zip line. Completely spelled out all states on formal invitations, so for example, “NY” becomes “New York”, “FL” becomes “Florida” and so on. This also applies to P.O. Boxes. Instead of “P.O. Box 56”, spell it out “Post Office Box 56”. When it comes to directional names within the address, spell out North, South, East, West if it precedes the street name (123 South Main Street). A comma is added after the street name and an abbreviation is used only if it comes after the address (123 Cherry Street, N.W.). For Wedding invitation addressing, follow this simple rule: “when in doubt…always spell it out!”

#3. Avoid Symbols:

Leave the use of symbols for horoscopes! LOL! This means avoid ampersands and hashtags when addressing formal invitations. So for example, “Mr. & Mrs. William Smith” becomes “Mr. and Mrs. William Smith” and “Apartment #3M” becomes “Apartment Number 3M”.

It is important for us to note that these wedding invitation addressing tips listed are not set in stone. Etiquette rules may vary throughout the internet depending on where you are getting your information from. These tips we provide here are commonly used tips typically used when working with our brides and grooms on their wedding invitation orders. It is always wise to leave it up to the advise of a professional when it comes to properly addressing wedding invitation envelopes and using proper etiquette rules.

We, here at Yvonne’s Invitations & Favors, it is part of our signature customer service to check all of the envelope addresses carefully when submitting for calligraphy printing. To make an appointment with us, please contact us at or calling us directly at (516) 932-9600.

Good Luck and Happy Addressing!




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